• Zeynep

    Almost two months ago, I was a wreck, tiynrg to comprehend how some people could put others in a state where they are stripped of their pride, of their self worth, of everything. I am happy to say that I am doing better, the sadness is subsiding and letting go of the person who is giving me the silent treatment.I read through the things people go through, and I realise that as much as we feel it is wrong to be treated so maliciously, many of us refuse to take the rein in our own lives and chart for something better. It may not be leaving the person who is giving you and I the ST, but perhaps more into finding our own activities, our own hobbies, enjoying our days with our friends instead of waiting for our ST partner to come home and explain to us why he or she is being so mean.I stopped thinking of reasons why he is doing it to me. I know what he is doing is very cruel, and I am sure he knows what he is doing is cruel and manipulative. Since I am not married to him yet, and at this rate, I don’t think I want to marry him and be subjected to such a treatment for the rest of my life I decided it is good, even a blessing, to see this side of him before I made my choice.Life is too short to allow people like these to trample on you. I used to think I did something to deserve the bad treatment, but now, at 40 years old, I think this thinking needs to be deleted. No one deserves to be treated badly.I now believe that women in general should never opt for less than a guy who treats them with respect and dignity, loves them and are good role model for her future children. I think the same should go for men. Too often, we opt for something less because we believe the bird has already left’ but in actual fact, there are so many good men and women around. We can’t find them, or they are too shy to approach us because we’re stuck with someone.I wish everyone suffering from ST would just tell their partner that it is enough as calmly as possible. It is scary to think of forging your life own your own, but I think of it in another way I am tired living everyday wondering if I am treading on firm or soft ground, whether I’d get a reply any time soon or never. I am alone now, but I am happy. I used to watch my hp for every text messages, but day by day, I am no longer addicted to my handphone.I finally have my life back.

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