September 14, 2012 |
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#13 Now I will too
I've always done that glad in not the only one…
ive always done it too. and the noises that they make, LOL. honestly, i feel like that is probably what i look/sound like too! haha
#3 "Forewarned is Forearmed"
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#8 I wonder if it she really has no regrets or says so to comfort herself? :/ Hmm.
The latter or she wouldn't have the need to post it as a secret..
Maybe the reason it's posted as a secret is because of judgemental arses like this.
Heaven forbid a woman should do as she pleases with her own body. Or live her life as she sees fit.
She's not hurting anybody. Her choices don't affect you.
Kindly keep your speculation and condemnation to yourselves.
that's great and all but as a guy I would not touch her . That is way too many dicks. Friends maybe but anything sexual, no definitely not.
Yeah I'm sure the fact that a dick like you doesn't approve is going to keep her up at night…Looks like she has plenty of other men in her life who don't judge a woman by how many people she's had sex with.
Yeah, guys who hit it and quit it. Good luck finding a real guy to stay with a girl like that. But I wouldn't doubt that she'd fudge those numbers.
let's forget about judgmental people.. if she's proud of it, ok, cool, she must be 20 right now, but by the time she's 27 and the doctor is telling her, the HPV has evolved into cancer, she'll f*cking regret it.
Sleeping around and using protection aren't mutually exclusive. Plenty of people think because they don't have many partners they aren't at risk. This is another prejudice and an excuse to judge women for choosing what they want instead of what society dictates is appropriate.
Or maybe it's because our entire culture judges a woman purely on the number of partners she has. Seriously, as women we should be not be condemning other women who choose what's right for them. That's what being empowered is about. Having female genitals does not mean everyone gets to decide how much sex I should or should not have. It's SEXIST. If you encourage judging a woman based on standards held for an ENTIRE gender (half the worlds population!) you are letting everyone around you know that you, as woman, also don't deserve the right to choose what's right for you.
This is my secret, it is a secret because of the judgemental people of the world. Usuming the worst about me , just look at some of those comments and you see why it has to be a secret.
I done this in good fun and never hurt anyone, not one disease or unwanted pregnancy, always 100% safe! Lots of good times with great friends. I never hurt anyone, never broke the law, never been unemployed, paid my own way in life, have no drug or alcohol problems, have a fantastic family and no mental issues. Just a happy chick living life while I've still got it to live.
I'm now happily married, have been with him 10 years. I've got a great husband, great kids and no regrets!
Sounds perfect! Ok, well good for you!
#6 I had a boyfriend who used meth to finish Architecture school, it ruined our relationship, and now there's no work for him because it's California and nobody is building anything. It's never, ever worth it!
#2 you don't need to explain it to some, because we understand. I'm 300 and i know no one looks at me because they really want to. Some days I feel sorry for the people who have to see me.
I'm 210lbs and I'm invisible. I always silently apologize to massage therapist who have to touch me.
I hope you learn to love yourself <3 hugs
Stop silently apologising immediately, xoxo!! You pay them for a service and by God they should deliver to the best of their abilities and leave you satisfied. Your money and your value as a person are not any less. So stop that, for my sake, please, if not for yours!
I know exactly how you feel. I am 287 and couldn't even pay anyone to pay attention to me. Even worst…I live in LA. The lonilness is sometimes almost literally crippling. I hope for all our sakes that people grow up and realize that there are wonderful people under the skin if they would just take a chance and say hello.
You don't owe ANYONE an apology. You are NOT defective! As women we have been taught from a young age that we owe it to society to look 'beautiful' and we have been given ONE specific standard of what beauty is. It's BULLSHIT! You can be fat and beautiful, have a boyfriend/girfriend, get married, have babies, do whatever the hell you want and be extremely happy. None of those things are dependent on how close to the Western ideal of beauty you are. The message that you are worthless has been fed to you by the media who are in a position to say whatever the hell they want and make it look like it's authoritative and universal. There are over 6 billion human beings on this planet and the range of what people want and like are across the board.
You have as much right to be here and look the way you are and expect the same respect as anyone else. As a fat girl it took me a while to understand this but now I do and instead of feeling shame when it's assumed there's something wrong with me I get angry. I slowly started choosing to do things that I wanted/made me happy instead of letting my fear of being judged dictate my life: I wear skinny jeans, bold colors, heels and makeup. I even went swimming this summer for the first time in 15 years and wore a real bathing suit without covering myself with a t-shirt/shorts. I workout/do exercise that I LIKE went I WANT TO. I order what I WANT in a restaurant whether it's a salad or a Goddam double cheeseburger.
As long as we continue to judge a woman based on her appearance foremost we will all be vulnerable to it's whims and fashions. Everyone has different standards so it is impossible for any woman to please everyone; too fat, too skinny, too pale, too dark, too sexy, too prudish, too reserved, too expressive, etc, etc. The only way to fight this is to demand (not ask) to be treated with respect and to respect other women by also not judging them in this way. PS The Berry is probably the worst place for this kind of judging!
I don't do it anymore, but I used to. I think it made me stupid. At the very least, it diminished my short-term memory.
I used to smoke constantly. I haven't now for years, but I think it really messed w my short term memory and gave me maybe a bit of brain damage.
And I'm supposed to be going back to college for the first time since I started all that for biochem and I'm terrified I'm too dumb for it now.
#5 me too! I have ever since I was a kid.
#1 is one of my biggest fears. Not for me, but for those around me that I really care about.
maybe she already went through therapy and was able to forgive herself and now not regret any of it.
also the large girls prob. have more issues ..where are the calls for therapy for them?
I know how you feel, I was once there…But now down 120 lbs I still feel invisible at times.
It's because our society dictates that a woman should be judged by her appearance foremost and since it's impossible to please everyone it's sets up women to constantly feel unworthy of respect. People will continue to judge no matter how thin/fat. young/old, etc, you are. Recognize that it is wrong to judge a person, male or female, based on their appearance and start demanding (not asking) for the respect you deserve. Start making choices in your life that are about what YOU want not what others expect of you. You can be a happy fulfilled person at ANY size.
or maybe she just likes penis.
i mean, i love penis!
#12 I don't.
#7 reminds me of my husband. When he comes off of watch duty on the ship he always texts me in the morning to see if I'd like a coffee. He's a sweetheart.
#2 I totally understand.
And my biggest question to myself is now: WHY am I so scared to lose the weight?
Perhaps because even if you loose the weight people will still feel like they have the right to judge your appearance as a woman. I'll repeat what I say to a post above: Our society dictates that a woman should be judged by her appearance foremost and since it's impossible to please everyone it's sets us up to constantly feel unworthy of respect. People will continue to judge no matter how thin/fat. young/old, etc, you are. Recognize that it is wrong to judge a person, male or female, based on their appearance and start demanding (not asking) for the respect you deserve. Start making choices in your life that are about what YOU want not what others expect of you. You can be a happy fulfilled person at ANY size. As long as you associate happiness with your outward appearance you will never stop feeling the pressure.
#3 I think it's whatever that makes you want to cry that's killing you, not the workplace rule.
#8 Really? Not even the herpes?
Actually it isn't. It can also be indicative of a woman who has chosen to do what SHE wants with her body instead of caving in to the impossible and sexist standards of society. And if the ONLY thing you know about a woman is that she sleeps around that's pretty slim evidence to be diagnosing someone with emotional issues.
A man who does the same isn't sent to therapy. That's called a double standard.
#8 Obviously 100 country boys like dirty whores & to top it off…..you're bragging. Just nasty & tacky. No shame and NO class. Sad.
#1 that's what college is for
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