February 8, 2013 |
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#7–Ah. I get a LOT of rude people at work (waitress). I was yelled at the other day because one of the options for lunch was a grilled cheese (as if I have any control over that). Last week, an old couple called me a bitch when they though I couldn't hear because they weren't served first (they weren't even in my section).
But instead of finding ways to mess up their service, I tried harder to make them happy. I dont WANT people mad at me, even if they are rude. My strategy it to be nice. Too nice. So nice that they eventually feel bad because all they did was yell at me when all I did was smile and try to help them out.
And it works. People apologize. Someone even gave me chocolates. Kill them with kindness
It does not matter, people should not be rude to you anyways. How disrespectful of them to call you names. I would have reported them. I cant tolerate such disgusting people.
I feel your pain. You have to learn to have a barrier in yourself that prevents you from being upset. It sucks when people are giving you a hard time.
Love to you, Candy
I wish I had your strength, it's so easy for me to react and be a bitch. I really admire people like you with the inner zen and wisdom to get beyond trivial people and situatuons! Stay classy!!!
It takes a special kind of person to stick with a customer service-type job! I'm a cashier at a store and I absolutely agree with what Candy said!
Working with the general public is atrocious. I used to manage a day spa and some women were so horrible. I would say "Please calm down, I'm the one who is going to help you."
Kill them with kindness is the best but HARDEST thing to do! I've worked as a sales associate for 3 years a while back and it was sometimes the best or the worst job. Getting clothes thrown at my face, and being called a stupid was definitely not the best for my self esteem but I was just always polite back and in return made them feel stupid for treating me that way. Some people are just miserable and ignorant and helpless, I just learned to not let them ruin my day because it wasn't worth it!
Exactly. The key to customer service is to not take it personally. I"ve had people throw food at me or one old lady actually slapped my butt because she felt it was too close to her face. I've learned that you 1. Do all that you can to make it better. and 2. Always apologize. Even if it isn't your fault. Go out of your way to find them and apologize. Even if it means getting cussed out some more. It makes them feel bad later. And that is the ultimate revenge.
Definitely! It's very sad to see it though. I could never understand why someone would treat a complete stranger so horribly. My moms words of "treat others how you would want to be treated" always stuck with me. We need more people like you Candy!
Everyone should have to work in both retail and at a restaurant to realize how friggin' hard the jobs really are. Then maybe people would be a little more understanding when their drink isn't filled up ASAP but the restaurant is full, or they wouldn't just toss items they don't want wherever or let their kids run helter skelter.
Killing them with kindness is awesome and works most often, but honestly, some people need a wake up call. I always hope that Karma gives it to them but sometimes I'm the karma, especially if they're disrespecting my staff.
Like a college lifestyle, a futon some bean bag chairs . . .
I kinda wrinkled my nose after reading this secret… Who cares what your furniture looks like? If you have the means, then CHANGE IT.
I think it means SP was once well to do and now is not but probably has a storage unit full of nice, expensive furniture that doesn't fit in their one bedroom apt now. So sell it. If you get back to the same level of status you were before you can always get new stuff and if you don't then you're not holding on to a life that no longer exists.
#5 Oh I beg to differ. What I wouldn't give to be "normal" and not have to live like this -anxiety SUCKS
I agree with you completely.
anxiety is the worst! totally agree too.
Agreed. I have both obsessive compulsive disorder and generalized anxiety disorder and "interesting" is one of the last ways I'd describe it.
I have a panic disorder with bouts of agoraphobia. It's a living hell on earth.
I would gladly buy you batteries anytime you want.
If a girl was unfortunate enough to date you, I bet it's a requirement of the relationship Mr Rhymes-with-little-dinkle
What's wrong with a guy being cool about his girl using a vibrator? I think that's pretty healthy for a relationship! The more fun and confidence the better
Thank you, Ooooh lala, I appreciate you saying that. I am married and I do buy my wife all the batteries she needs so she doesn't have to steal. We often "play" with each other. Why are most women pansies about sex or their bodies? How old do you think I am? How long do you think my wife and I have been married?
I will save you women the time and judgement aimed toward me. 62, been married 33 years. Needless to say we have been through a lot of batteries!! Losen up ladies, us men do love you and your bodies, quit hidding it from us…..you will be suprised.
It's fantastic you buy your wife all the batteries she needs. But I think josie.p meant to call you creepy. You seem like the kind of guy who comments on every slutty picture over on The Chive with, "Daaaammnn! Dat ass! FAP FAP FAP" which is disgusting.
You seem like the type of women that judges everyone over the internet.
You come to this conclussion because I said, " I would gladly buy batteries anytime you want"? It's obvious your not getting the attention you think you deserve.
spelling police, save you ladies time.
It's obvious you didn't get the education that everyone should have. Please learn to spell. Then I'll consider your argument.
Why am I stooping to arguing on the internet? lol disregard the stuff I've said. I need to go to work.
Looks as though u red it just fine. Whats the problum? if you choose to miss the point that your problum. I will spel how every the hell i want!
maybe women on here just came to the conclusion that you're one of those disgusting "fap"-guys because of the combination of what you posted AND your username…
Please never insult a guy by saying "no girl would date you". It's likely the ones you are saying this to are fully aware of it and don't need to be reminded of it. Imagine how would you feel being told "no guy would date you".
And please don't ever say things like "most women do this or that" because you don't know most women.
(And I don't mean YOU specifically, but really everybody. I hate generalizations, especially if it's about gender)
I never said "most women do that", see did in fact say that which is why I wrote a comment. It seems a too often cop out comment for women to say "no one will date you" which is a really hurtful comment that gets said too often.
This is a video that explains it very well. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xaxKR4CAKf8
I for one don't approach women what-so-ever with the purpose to avoid comments such as the one in question.
#8 No the sad part is you'll survive but you'll kill other people.
NOTHING you have to say is that important so put down the fucking phone.
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