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  • Candy

    #3 Do you believe there is a certain age where age no longer matters? Like, of course you cant be 30 and go out with a 15 year old. But can you be 50 and go out with someone 25? How far between is appropriate? I had a teacher who was 14 years younger than her husband. A lot of people disapproved because of the age gap but anyone who met them could clearly see they were in love and age didnt matter.
    Does it?

    • boop

      i think older people have had more life experience and are more certain about what they want. They are also more settled in terms of a career, property etc and so have more freedom in a sense to try other things… i don't mean to offend but from what i've seen/ heard of younger people they are too eager to try anything and everything which isn't entirely a bad thing but it can make them get really attached to something that isn't meant to last and get really upset when it doesn't end up how they wanted it to… they can get themselves into a lot of trouble because they aren't fully aware that their actions have consequences… i also think that the younger the person the smaller the age gap should be whereas once they are over 21 it shouldn't matter so much :)

    • MontanaGirl76

      I dated a 22 year old at 35, whatever I may have been Cougar or not. It was brutally uncomfortable. I felt judged and broke it off.

    • Brutally Honest

      It would depend on the two in the relationship because society may disapprove, but if it is true love, then it would not matter. Ageism is a socially constructed "problem"–similar to racism and any other system, which ends in "ism". It will always exist because it favors one group: the young, and is a bane to the other: the old. The older men and younger women relationship is often justified by the argument that some older women are infertile but an older woman caring for a younger man seems too motherly and emasculating. I, personally, do not understand the controversy; especially, when looking at them they appear close in age. In essence, "Haters are gonna hate".

    • PicklesMcGee

      I don't think it's a matter of appropriate-ness (is that a word?) once you're both over 21 (yes, that is my cut-off) I don't think people should really care… BUT imho, too large an age gap can leave you feeling like you have nothing in common. For a few months, yes, enjoy your young stud… but in the long run… meh, idk, I just don't see it.

    • KTmess

      I think it has more to do with "stage in life" than a specific age. I'm in my mid 20s and I feel like I have more in common with someone 10 years older than me than I would someone in college. Even if a college kid was technically closer to my age. Are we going to talk about his homework while I worry about my grown-ass job and bills? It isn't that age doesn't matter, but I think having things to connect about matters a lot more. That's my experiential input for whatever it's worth.

    • christysmom97

      I have to admit…my husband of 13 years is 19 years older than me. That has presented numerous problems throughout our marriage. All of the adventures I want to go on he's already done and has no interest in doing them again (boating, rving, traveling, etc….). We have different tastes in music and very different views on politics and life in general. We love each other very much and can balance each other out, but like all marriages, it is not without hard work and challenges :)

    • JESSE

      As a 27 year old male, you should know its fun for us too. Older women are dirtier, faster, and more honest. And 2 months ago I slept with a 51 year old. It was the best sex I've ever had.

    • Keith

      I'm 33 and my partner is 50, and I've never been in such a great relationship. I have an ex who is 19 years older than I, and we were together 7 years. Obviously, it depends on the people involved in the relationship, but it can be very good for both parties.

      • JESSE

        I can't believe some of these chicks would give us thumbs down. jealousy is an emotion of the psychologically weak

    • hazel

      I personally like older guys because in my experience they have always been more honest and straight forward about what they want from me. Younger guys like to keep me guessing and I hate that!

  • christysmom97

    #6 I hope by some miracle you are a Berry and you see this. Please know our thoughts and prayers are with you! You are strong and can survive!! KCCO!!

    • Jacq

      Don't let your fear steal your fight!! Keep the faith & KCCO! *hugs*

  • Seldi84

    #4. Ok that's different.

  • Jacq

    #1 – hehe, a little bit of harmless revenge never hurt anyone. I saw a mean girl from high school the other day, for the first time since a friend's wedding years ago when she wouldn't even say hello to me, she is as big as a house. I took such pleasure in seeing such a nasty person LOOK so nasty, but I couldn't share my secret satisfaction with anyone because so many of my friends are dealing with post-baby bodies – even though that is something that never even crosses my mind because I love their hearts so much.

    • christysmom97

      I'm with you on this one! So nice to finally see bodies match personalities of the people who were so bitchy in high school! I grin on the inside too :)

  • Ari214

    #4 Hahaha. This put a funny visual in my head.

  • xoxo

    #3 do you know what they call men who go out with younger women?

    I hate the cougar thing so much. It's insulting.

    • MontanaGirl76

      I dated a 22 year old at 36….whatever I may have been Cougar or not. It was brutally uncomfortable. I felt judged and broke it off.

    • JESSE

      That's because older men with younger women has been a thing for as long as humans have been around. I don't mind being called a "cub" when its applicable.

  • Bob

    #7 So has everyone else. Who cares?

  • just asking

    #4 with or without your pants on?

  • Michele

    #5 I said it wrong for the longest time until high school when someone finally corrected me…

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