Twitter is generally an abusive space, like the complete opposite of a safe space. When it isn’t being used as a means of attacking people with differing beliefs, it’s a platform for jokes and weird self-promotion to thrive. This is probably why a Twitter story written by Dayton writer (and “capoeirista”) Danny Tira Trago went viral earlier this week— It’s gritty, it’s personal, and it’s relatable.
Trago’s story is about the highs and lows of marriage. Of the pleasure and the pain. Of the misconceptions surrounding divorce and of the trap of masculinity. It’s an emotional rollercoaster featuring relationship advice and the destruction of the ego, and it’s probably the realest thing about marriage living on the Twittersphere.
Trago explains how an unchecked ego can lead to downfall, and how easy it can be to slip up and ruin a life it took years to build.
He brings up another good point: nobody goes into a marriage expecting to get divorced one day. For many, it’s the only option and not some sort of easy way out.
He candidly discusses his depression following his son’s cancer diagnosis, noting the only thing that kept him afloat was his wife. How he accepted her role as the financial breadwinner after he lost his job, and how this feminism was ultimately his savior.
How nobody really talks about it, but divorce is the product of monotony and routine as much as anything else. How sometimes the thing breaking a marriage down isn’t some sort of earth-shattering event— it’s just life.
But mostly, how vulnerable one can feel despite having been married for many years and how universal feelings of inadequacy can be.