10 Guys Confess Their Super Secret Porn Watching Habits

For a lot of women — and some men — porn is a don’t-ask, don’t-tell topic. A scarlet letter. Some ladies even get pissed off when they find out their partner’s been charming the snake (always wanted to use that one), but porn, most of the time, is just an extension of fantasy. And it’s definitely something we don’t talk enough about out loud.

Here, 10 guys dished on the stuff they like to watch, what their partners (if any) think about and what sort of deep, dark rabbit-hole they go down when they’re all alone. Their answers were surprisingly thoughtful, sexually fluid and vulnerable — which is refreshing, given the pervasive notion that men are just mindless dicks on a stick.

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Sometimes I watch gay porn even though I’m a straight man.

“I watch 1-2 hours of porn daily. 99 percent of my sex life is solo and that part is 100 percent secret from partner. I tried to show my wife the things that turned me on but she flat-out told me I disgust her and that almost immediately knocked our sex life down from several times a week to monthly-ish. I like “real,” not fake, model types.  I like hourglass-figured women with large nipples and big vagina lips. I love watching women masturbate pretty much more than anything. For whatever reason, I need to believe the woman is super brilliant and so imagine that as I watch. I mostly watch curvy women and large-cocked transsexuals. I also watch gay porn but never with faces. Since I had a vasectomy with serious erectile dysfunction from the nerve damage, watching a dick be stroked reminds me of what it feels like. I also read a ton of literotica, write graphic masturbation poetry and take dick pics.” – Trevor

I like group sex and bukkake — mostly things I’ll never do IRL.

“In relationships (I’m super solidly gay), I usually limit my porn, though when I’m away on tour, I tend to look at waaaaay more porn. I’m into gay stuff, but sometimes I look at straight porn because I want variety. I tend to favor group stuff, really kinky bukkake stuff and fantasies of things I probably wouldn’t ever do in real life.” — Ben

I look at really violent stuff, even though I’m not violent AT ALL in real life. Also, golden showers.

“I confess: I look at porn, a lot. I am a single straight guy without a girlfriend. I like the really kinky stuff: Face-slapping lesbians are a real turn on for me. This is a real 360 degree turn for me, as I am NOT violent and HATE violence. So I know that it is not real, even though some people really DO get off on being slapped. I enjoy this, but if I see REAL girls actually fighting, that’d be different. I also like lesbian spitting videos, where they take turns spitting on one girl, sometime while engaging in oral sex. And I LOVE golden shower porn videos too. I never was into ANY of the above until I got a little older. Then the freak in me came out…” – Jeremy

 I watch porn because it is a reminder that my sexuality belongs to me and not any partner – and this is something we often forget.

“I grew up in a culture like many people did: we were told that our partners and spouses “owned” our sexuality. We were told that it was okay to tell a partner they couldn’t masturbate or use porn or have fantasies. The myth of erotic fusion — that your partner can fulfill all your needs — is pernicious. It did huge damage to me when I was younger. So now, porn is a reminder that my sexuality is my own, and even if I were to be monogamous again, it would still be mine first.” — Tay

I’m into the whole “two guys in a locker room after practice” thing.

“I’m a cisgendered bisexual white male. In my masturbation life, I watch way more gay porn, especially amateur stuff. (The old “two guys in a locker room after practice” trope has SUCH an enduring appeal. I can almost smell the sweat!) Jocks sucking cocks, people getting choked out, and women having intense orgasms. I like some BDSM, especially choking/breath-play fetish videos. Breath play is part of my sexual life too. On the straight side, I love women’s faces as they orgasm. It’s so hot.” – Sam

I look at porn because my wife and I rarely have sex.

“I look at porn because it makes me horny, I like beautiful bodies, I like to see consensual sex and I admire people who are uninhibited. I like lesbian porn and BDSM mainly — as long as it is clearly consensual. It contradicts my ‘real’ sex life, as I don’t have one. My wife has a borderline personality disorder and has never liked sex, especially since our children were born.” — Frasier

I don’t compare my porn to my girlfriend, ever. Stop thinking that!

“I would never tell my girlfriend I was watching porn, but I watch a lot of it, even though we’re super happy and she’s super hot. She’d dump me if she knew. The thing is that the porn I’m watching can’t compare to her. It’s just a tool for me basically, and she’s like a goddess. Why don’t women get that?” – Darrell

I prefer brunettes over blondes — any day.

“It is rare that I look at blond women, but when I do, they’re pretty much ‘real blondes’ — meaning super-pale. Mostly, I watch dark haired women. My general first inclination is brunettes.” – Tom

I think most guys feel jealous of their wives or girlfriend’s toys or masturbation.

“I think we’re wired to be jealous of our partners finding pleasure elsewhere, and even if our minds can understand that it’s not an actual act with another person, we take issue with our partners getting pleasure from outside. It’s not just porn; many of my male friends have expressed jealousy even around their girlfriend’s vibrators. We don’t like to think that we’re not enough. I have no idea how well this translates across sexual preference, gender idenity, or race though. Maybe this is just my upper-middle class white guy interpretation.” – Jake

I like to watch porn in public.

“I watch at least an hour of porn per day. I usually watch it on my phone. I prefer to watch it in public. I find it relaxes me. As far as any secret fantasies I watch, I’m a paid subscriber to the sites kink.com and sexuallybroken.com. My fantasy is bondage, where I’m the dom/sadist. That fantasy is also incorporated into my own sex life. But my super secret fantasy is being with another man, preferably younger.” – Dan

 I like to read escort websites.

“I read escort websites and imagine that I could have (or buy) any of those women. Sometimes I even write down their phone numbers. My girlfriend found out and flipped a shit on me, so I stopped. I usually just masturbate to get my day going, and my girlfriend knows but she doesn’t want to hear details, ever. I think if she caught me she’d break up with me.” — Alex

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