It’s no secret, particularly not to us, that being a woman can be a constant balancing act. Society continues to put a number of ridiculous labels on us that make it unbelievably frustrating to find a middle ground. If you wear too many clothes, you must be frigid and uninviting, but if you wear too little then a sea of slut shaming is bound to surround you.
When does it stop? At the end of the day, you just have to be your best self and ignore the societal-created culture of what “being a woman” means, but that doesn’t mean it’s always easy. Sometimes it just gets to be too much and something has to be said. Following the outrageous burkini incident in France, one illustrator took to her talents to express her frustration about the unrealistic expectations of being a woman.
Artist and writer Daisy Bernard illustrated this picture to represent the contradictory “rules” of womanhood in 2016.
There are many reasons why this powerful image has started going viral. For starters, the issue is being acknowledged. We NEED feminism, because sexism is alive and well and is affecting us every single day. Whether it be in the way we dress, or how we are expected to act in the workplace, or even in our day-to-day lives, the so-called “rules” are out of hand. In her article with The Tab, Bernard further discusses several of these issues.
“Women are constantly judged for how they look, or should look. We’re expected to look “feminine” – wear makeup, nice clothes, shave everything – but if we’re “too high maintenance” it’s off-putting.” Bernard says.
Bernard shared more of her illustrations that touch on other areas of life where women have to deal with these unrealistic expectations.
This illustration depicting women in modern relationships could not be more true. We can’t be too opinionated with our SO because then we’re “high maintenance” or “psycho”, but if we let things slide then we’re a “pushover” who can’t think for herself. It’s absolutely infuriating. Why…WHY is this such an issue?
Bernard related to all of our frustrations in this quote with The Tab.
“There is a Beyonce lyric that sums up the two negative stereotypes of women in relationships, a psycho or a pushover: ‘What’s worse, being jealous or crazy? More like being walked all over lately… I’d rather be crazy’.”
Can we get an Amen?
We need more strong minded women like this in our lives.