11 Men And Women Confess Their Pegging And Butt-Play Secrets

Just mentioning the word ‘pegging’ might illicit some responses of shock and judgement. That’s because some people are either prudish and/or disgusted by the natural human body. Bonkers. But pegging, like any other sexual activity, is all about pleasure (and for some, maybe a little bit of pleasurable pain, of course). And, like any other healthy, consenting sexual situation, it’s a personal choice that shouldn’t be seen as ‘bad’ or ‘weird.’ Traditional gender roles have prevented people from sexual exploration in many ways, but the man who enjoys anal play — and the woman who likes to offer it up, for example — aren’t latent homosexuals or sinners. They’re just sexual beings. Here’s what 11 men and women had to say about pegging and anal sexual experiences. And interestingly enough, many open-minded, sex-positive people still struggle with the concept.

But too bad. According to a Xandria poll, about 20 percent of heterosexual men reported having an experience whereby a woman anally penetrated them. To them, I say, have fun. Use good toys. And lube up.

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If people knew that I, a good Catholic girl, pegged my boyfriend, they’d judge me.

“I am a catholic girl with good parents, a good job, and a good lot of friends. I just am your normal average basic blonde girl, basically, haha. But if people knew that I pegged my boyfriend, they’d judge me. It’s not something society wants to hear because women are supposed to be the soft, nice sexual objects. I’m not really a feminist or anything, but I think pegging is great. I’m not trying to make it about gender equality…it’s just a healthy and fun thing. Everyone wants to feel pleasure.” — Dia, 30

I want my girlfriend to peg me, but…

“I would love to try and ask my girlfriend to peg me, but I think she’d be freaked out and dump me. I have this fantasy that someone ties me up, ass up, and pegs me hard and makes me feel powerless. I am a broker so my daily grind is all about money and manipulating people. I wield the power, really. So I want someone who can hurt me and make me feel like they’re in control and I need to rely on them. It’s not shocking psychology, but I would bet that most men feel this way.” — Danez, 33

I don’t feel ashamed of my pegging fantasies.

“I don’t think I ever would want to get pegged by my girlfriend…but I do fantasize about it while I have sex. I don’t want her to worry that I’m gay or something like that. I only think about women when I think about pegging…so in a way I don’t feel too bad about my pegging fantasies, like I’m arrested and the police women puts me in a cage and does it. Something dumb like that.” — Dustin, 30

It’s called “the prostate,” folks.

“Society says that any man who receives anal pleasure is gay or deviant in some way. But it’s a really amazing feeling for us — and pleasure is pleasure, no matter what.  I’ve done it a lot during my life with dildos and butt plugs, always with a partner.” — Alex, 32

I’m a submissive who pegs.

At first, when my boyfriend asked me to peg him, I was worried…I’m naturally a submissive, so doing that to him feels really dominating. But when he explained it like he’s making me do something to him, it changed my perspective. I’m not like dying to peg him all day long, but we do it every few months. He cums really quickly when I do it.” — Sofia, 31

My butt plug is my best friend.

“The only way I can masturbate is with a tiny butt plug. My sex life for real doesn’t exist at the moment, but next time I date someone, I want to make sure they’re down with it. The pleasure sensation just gets maximized with the anal stimulation.” — Ned, 30

I am a bi guy with an interest in anal. No big deal.

“I’m a bisexual male with lots of kinky desires. My mom “common” is probably butt play. I like dildos, fingers, tongues, whatever. Pegging is welcome here, haha” — Andy, 28 

 I had an accident once…

“So….I can’t even believe I’m telling you this.One time I was having anal sex for maybe the 3rd or 4th time. I had an “accident,” let’s just say. Now, every time we do butt stuff with a plug or dildo, I make sure I’ve gone to the bathroom that day. I take it out myself after it’s been in during sex to make sure there isn’t…spillage.” — Maria, 29

I was worried about the toll it took on my body.

“After I literally had so much anal sex with my partner, a girl (meaning she used a strap-on on me), I felt like my butt was ravaged. I took a break for a while and it feels…better. It’s not for everyone. And, in the begging, I worried she’d think I was gay or something, but she loves it as much as I do. But at least for me there are physical side effects of constant use.” — Dan, 31

I have a strap-on at my house, ready to go.

“I am a hot-blooded straight male who owns a black strap on that I have women wear when they want to indulge in that sort of behavior. I am not even remotely ashamed of that fact. Why would I be? If you guys felt what we felt, you’d know why. Also, what’s hotter than a chick who can confidently rock a dick?” — Laif, 29

It’s the ultimate power.

“For me, it’s a power trip. I like to hurt guys. I used to be a professional domme but I since stopped after getting pregnant and having a kid. Now, I do it with open-minded guys I date and I like it. It makes me feel hyper-feminine, like I am all-powerful.” — Triana, 32

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