The dynamic between a stepmom and an ex-wife is often awkward at best, and contentious at worst. And, to a certain extent, it’s understandable — if there’s a child involved, then you’ll still have to deal with one another to a certain extent, and they will probably have some influence in your kid’s life.
Some moms would be chagrined at the idea of their child spending time with their ex’s new girlfriend. However, a note from Facebook user Audrey Nicole has recently forced other women to put things in perspective.
Nicole left a thankful message about her ex-husband’s girlfriend on the Facebook page Love What Matters, admitting that she was grateful that her daughter had such a loving woman in her life.
The post reads:
This is my daughters fathers girlfriend. The sweetest thing ever! I’m super thankful for her because when she visits her dad she feeds her, takes care of her, buys her gifts, and basically takes care of her like her own. Why do all these moms act so spiteful and jealous towards the other women? NOONE said it was easy trying to be a mother to a kid you didn’t have. So when there is someone trying, don’t push them away! Because they DON’T need the drama they WILL leave and then you’re stuck with someone who is the evil step mom. Yes they exist! I see them everywhere! A kid can have two moms because in my eyes the more people that love her I’m happy! I would never make her feel like an outsider; I’m extremely thankful for this girl. <3<3<3 Ladies, grow up and focus on being a good mom. Love more hate less!”
Which is, honestly, an important message to take to heart, particularly when it’s so easy for women to view one another as competition.
In these trying times, who needs the added pressure of constantly competing with fellow women who are supposed to be your allies? As Ashley puts it, “Love more, hate less.” It’s a pretty easy rule of thumb, and it takes less effort to be kind to another person that it does to be an assh*le.
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