He chased you for weeks sometimes — even months — and now he’s leaving? Why do men do anything to be with you before having sex, only to turn around and leave after?
Here are three answers to why he stopped calling after having sex with you… and the antidote:
1. It’s chemical.
After sex, women’s oxytocin levels increase, while the closeness and cuddling lower men’s testosterone. He unconsciously wants to do something productive for himself to raise his testosterone levels.
2. He feels guilty.
When a man has sex with you too soon, he feels guilty and wants to get away from the scene of the crime. He knows he used you and now wants to get away from you because you let him.
Yes as crazy as it sounds he’s blaming you! Which leads us to the third reason…
3. You give too much.
Men don’t fall in love when they receive. They fall in love when they give. For more on this, read A Life Of Love.
They fall in love before sex, not after it. If he thinks that he’s earned the right to be with you by winning you over through the effort and struggle of courtship, he will stay with you.
Originally published by James Allen Hanrahan at YourTango.
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