So, you’re single. Maybe you’ve been in a lot of relationships, but nothing seems to stick. Maybe you just never get involved with people, because you like your space and you keep your distance. Maybe you keep finding yourself attracted to someone with ~issues~. Here’s the thing: The stars may be influencing your ability to find a successful match.
Here’s your guide to getting out of your own way, based on your sun sign.
Aries (March 21–April 19)
Your single issue: You won’t compromise.
The fiery Aries doesn’t feel like they should have to change anything about themselves to please a potential match. Your lives shouldn’t change, and people who want to be in a relationship with them need to just adapt, right? Unfortunately, all relationships require a little bit of work from both parties. Even if you find a partner who is willing to let you take charge, if you take a little bit of time to make them feel heard, and make an effort to put the spotlight on someone else from time to time, you’ll be able to build a mutually satisfying bond.
Taurus (April 20-May 20)
Your single issue: You struggle to leave your comfort zone.
Taureans are naturally amazing S.O.s You are patient, reliable, and loyal. You love nothing more than to hang out, even if it just means sitting around and ordering Thai food. Unfortunately, sometimes that’s all you want, and you aren’t willing to try new things. If you don’t have a partner to do that with, you’re not going to meet them on Postmates. Every once in a while, try new things and make an effort to meet new people. It’s exhausting, but after a while, you’ll find the Chicken Satay to your Pad See Ew.
Gemini (May 21-June 20)
Your single issue: You get bored easily.
Geminis are charming and communicative. It is as easy for you to get to know people as it is for others to get to know you. Unfortunately, you require so much stimulation and can nitpick at people’s flaws and sensitivities when you’re around the same person for too long. Always keep your relationships balanced (get drinks with friends, call your family, ask a stranger on the bus how their day is going if you have to) so that you don’t get too bored and frustrated. In finding a mate, look for someone who likes to be around people, try new things, and communicate openly, which is key for you to form a satisfying connection.
Cancer (June 21-July 22)
Your single issue: Getting to know new people is overwhelming for you.
Cancers are the ultimate nesters, and they like to create a cocoon of comfort around them for protection from the outside world. To you, there’s a very defined line between your circle of friends and the rest of the world. It’s good for you to get out of the house and, if it feels right, let new people into your inner circle. They may surprise you and make you feel more comfortable than you feel around anyone else.
Leo (July 23-August 22)
Your single issue: You’re just too damn much.
There’s no other way to say it really, sorry Leos. We all love you and your confidence—in fact, you’re energy is attractive AF. But it’s possible for those around you to feel like they’re too close to the fire and getting burnt by its insatiable energy and intolerance for weakness. Make an effort to take a break from the spotlight and give others a chance to shine. Your fire will burn brighter for it, and others will appreciate your sparkle more when they aren’t blinded by it 24/7.
Virgo (August 23-September 22)
Your single issue: Nobody’s good enough.
The over-analytical Virgo is quick to find flaws, which can be a timesaver. It may also rob you of love and life experience. This coupled with your reserved attitude may make it hard for you to find your perfect fit. Try to let go of the little stuff. Meditate or try deep breathing or yoga—whatever you have to do to get your mind to chill, so you can relax and try to understand others’ point of view. From there, you’ll be better able to accept and maybe even fall in love with people for who they are.
Libra (September 23-October 22)
Your single issue: You can’t decide on what (or who) you want.
Everyone loves a Libra! Everyone. Libras have the unique gift of being amenable to almost anyone. However that comes with its own drawbacks. If you have everyone to choose from, who do you choose? You can put on a lot of different personalities depending on who you’re with. Libras should look inside themselves at what is most important for them in a mate, and then try to focus their energy on finding it.
Scorpio (October 23-November 21)
Your single issue: You’re obsessive.
Scorpios are the most sexual sign of the zodiac, so finding passion in a relationship is not a problem for you. However, that excitement and romance can fade out quickly and leave you feeling jealous, obsessive, and resentful of any signs of change or disinterest from others, which in turn scares them off. Without losing your natural scorpion bite and spark, try to keep a healthy, big picture perspective on new relationships (and old ones) to maintain a level head.
Sagittarius (November 22-December 21)
Your single issue: You bail before it gets serious.
Sagittarius, I’m surprised you’re even reading this! You generally steer clear of long-term relationships and enjoy being single. After all, what you value most in this world is your independence and free-spiritedness. You always try to tackle life with honesty and humor. You’re also committed to higher learning, experiencing new things, and traveling. So, don’t forget that a relationship can be an emotionally-fulfilling adventure worth having, too.
Capricorn (December 22-January 19)
Your single issue: You assume the worst, so you don’t even try.
The prudent Capricorn, similar to fellow earth sign Virgo, is quick to notice people’s flaws. You tend to keep your personal life, well, private, so you don’t often go out of your way to pursue new relationships. (It doesn’t help that you’re a workaholic. Just saying.) “It wouldn’t work out because x would get in the way” probably runs through your head on a first date. Don’t be so quick to judge. Everyone has hidden depths between the surface, and the positives might end up outweighing the surface flaws.
Aquarius (January 20-February 18)
Your single issue: You don’t project a desire for intimacy.
Aquarius, you weirdo, somehow you manage to be charming in your own creative way. Your honesty and earnestness combined with a sharp intellect make you attractive, but often people don’t feel they can get close to you, because you seem to be in your own league. Or simply looking for a platonic relationship. But then, it’s apparent that you’re friends with everyone. Make sure to express interest in those who catch your eye, because it may not be as obvious to them as you might think.
Pisces (February 19-March 20)
Your single issue: You’re so emotional.
Pisces, like other water signs, tend to be emotional creatures, capable of feeling so much, so much of the time. When you care about someone, they become your everything. However, when things in the real world don’t match up with their idealized version of it, especially with regards to relationships, this creates conflict when potential partners can’t meet your expectations. Be extremely open and honest with your needs and desires, and try not to be too upset when there’s a mismatch.