When you go to the mailbox every day, you expect to find a couple bills, an advertisement for a local florist, and maybe a mailer with some Pizza Hut coupons, but actual letters and cards are rare commodities. When you get one, it’s exciting. You’re basically like a 4-year-old on Christmas morning, opening up a huge surprise. That’s exactly how one Florida mom felt when, last month, she found a mysterious envelope in her mailbox, and she excitedly opened it, only to find it was actually from a gigantic asshole.
Kelley Markland received an anonymous note telling her, “Women who weigh 300 pounds should not wear yoga pants!”
The envelope that contained the fat-shaming note also housed a crude photo of a woman who is not Markland, as well as a printed out meme featuring Ron Burgundy from Anchorman. “Your pants say yoga,” the meme reads. “But your butt says McDonald’s.”
The envelope had no return address, because of course it didn’t. Whoever did this is clearly a cowardly shit stain on the leggings of humanity.
Markland was devastated by the letter, but she decided to take pictures of it anyway and posted them on Facebook to share her story.
In her post, she revealed she’s struggled with her self-image and doesn’t usually feel like she’s “pretty” or looks good in clothing. In fact, wearing leggings with bold patterns and colors actually helps her feel empowered, and this random dickwad tried to ruin that.
“Wearing my ‘fun’ leggings gave me a tad bit of confidence in not looking sloppy all the time,” she wrote. “I’m sorry that some of you may not like it, but I’m not dressing for you. All the hate in this world, and you have to pick on me for this?! Thank you for making me feel like absolute, complete shit.”
Markland’s vulnerable Facebook post quickly went viral and even prompted the creation of #LeggingsWin.
Now, hundreds of women have used the hashtag to share photos of themselves in leggings and to tell their own stories of being shamed and learning how to love their bodies. Markland even joined in, posting her own leggings photo on Facebook with the caption, “Today, I wear Flamingo leggings! And my dog knows I was upset so he hasn’t left my side #effyouhaters.”
It’s utterly appalling to think anyone would find it acceptable to mail someone an anonymous note shaming them for their body or their clothing choices, but here we are. It’s 2016, this woman is 36-years-old, and still she was the victim of a horrendous act of bullying.
Markland, the mom of a 10-year-old and an 8-year-old, told Babble one benefit to the shitty note is that she’s used it to show her kids how words can hurt.
“They got a first-hand account of seeing how I felt,” she revealed. “It’s one thing to talk about bullying, but when you see the after-effects of it actually happening, that’s a real-life image and a real-life picture for them to see… I’ve gone through a lot. At the end of the day, if this person can only make fun of me for my leggings, I’m doing pretty good in life.”
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