Although Dax Shepard and Kristen Bell are one of those envious celebrity couples that somehow manages to be funny and down-to-earth while simultaneously raising two kids, the relationship waters weren’t always so smooth for this pair. In fact, the two have such different temperaments that their meet-cute wasn’t really “cute” at all.
“When I met her and her friends, I was suspicious of their unbridled happiness,” Shepard told Good Housekeeping. “I thought, ‘Something stinks here; they’re in a cult.'”
Which, for those of use who don’t identify as extroverts, is a fairly relatable sentiment — and also serves as a nice reminder that even total opposites can make a relationship work.
Bell has also admitted to Flare magazine that the pair’s initial meeting at a dinner party was “not electric,” but that the tides eventually changed. “Two weeks later, I went to a Kings versus red Wings game— he was with someone I knew, and I was with my roommate, Ryan Hansen — and we ran into each other. It was on from that point.”
The couple is historically quite candid about their differences, both in personality and background. “We would not have been friends in high school,” Bell has said. “He was a drug addict and he was wild, and I was very much a good girl who went to Catholic school. He is also five years older than I am, and he lived in Milford, which is a bit more drive-your-tractor-to-the-7-eleven-type Michigan, and I was closer to downtown Detroit.”
Shepard has supported this idea, saying that their temperaments make them a particularly unlikely pairing. “Kristen’s a good girl,” Shepard told Playboy in 2012. “She grew up very Christian, went straight to college, did great in school and started work immediately. She’s charitable and philanthropic and rescues dogs. So when we met, our backgrounds were opposites. All the things I’d done were terrifying to her, and she had a hard time believing I would ever be able to stay married and monogamous and a father and all those things. For the first year and a half we were together, that was what we battled over almost weekly.”
Thankfully, the couple have worked through how to argue in healthy ways, and have been very forthright about their attending marriage counseling together. “I thought I had this life thing down pat when I met Dax. I didn’t realize that I needed a much bigger toolbox to have confrontations and disagreements with people,” Bell told Good Housekeeping. “You do better in the gym with a trainer; you don’t figure out how to cook without reading a recipe. Therapy is not something to be embarrassed about.”
For a Hollywood couple, it’s pretty impressive that these two are are at least attempting to be transparent about the realities of their relationship, rather than glossing over the imperfections and hurdles — even if, at their core, they’re still total opposites.