Why are there some relationships that the moment that they’re over, you’ve practically healed and are ready to move, and then there are others that seem to take forever to recover from?
Getting over someone after a breakup can take a long, long time. You desperately want to move on, but for some reason, you just can’t. You constantly think about your ex and check their social media just so you know a little bit about what’s going on in their life.
You know you shouldn’t call or text and yet you find yourself picking up your phone waiting to talk to them.
Everybody tells you it will take some time and eventually you’ll get over them but, honestly, you’re not so sure. It’s already been a few weeks/months and your heart doesn’t seem any closer to being whole again before the breakup.
It’s difficult enough to get over heartbreak, but it’s that much harder when the person who broke your heart was exceptional. Maybe they seemed to know you better than anyone else or perhaps you just felt completely loved by them.
It doesn’t matter if they were special or just like anyone else you were ever involved with; some people are practically impossible to get over.
It would be nice to know specifically what quality they had that seems to resonate with you, but even when you try to unemotionally think about them you just get reminded of how they’re not in your life anymore and how getting back together isn’t an option.
When all else fails, turn to astrology. While astrology isn’t an exact science, the stars can tell you a lot about the people born under each zodiac sign. You want to get over him but it might be comforting to know why it’s taking you so long to do so.
If you’re asking yourself, “Why can’t I move on from him?” this is why, based on his zodiac sign.
Aries (March 21 – April 19)
It seems as if you’ll always long for that touch of excitement and intrigue your Aries brought to your life. You want that incredible spark back, that quality that made you feel that you were the most alive and vibrant that you ever were. He encouraged you to take risks and challenged you in ways that you needed to be challenged.
Taurus (April 20 – May 20)
You’re not sure you’ll be able to get over how secure and loved your Taurus made you feel.
He wasn’t flighty, he didn’t constantly threaten to break up when things weren’t going right, and you knew he was there for the long haul even if ultimately it didn’t work out. He loved you with his whole heart and you him. Part of you feels that love will never die for either of you.
Gemini (May 21 – June 20)
Your Gemini taught you how to look at things from every angle and how to think outside the box. Now, it seems as if you only have one perspective of life and that’s dead-on. He showed you the importance of other people’s opinions and how sexy conversation could be.
Cancer (June 21 – July 22)
Will there ever be someone in your life again who is so open and has such a big heart as your ex?
Leo (July 23 – August 22)
He was surprisingly loyal and giving, but most importantly he made you feel deserving and valuable.
You felt as if he really saw you and not just the surface parts of you, but who you were on the inside — and he accepted it all.
Virgo (August 23 – September 22)
If you’re brutally honest with yourself, you know that you’re idealizing your Virgo ex.
It may be because you’re still not feeling secure in your new relationship or it might be because you weren’t ready to break up when you did.
He was the problem-solver in the relationship and now you have to figure out things for yourself. Now, it’s your heart that’s broken and he’s gone.
Libra (September 23 – October 22)
Things were so easy with your Libra ex — he wasn’t moody or mysterious, he just enjoyed being with you and having fun. You could relax and know that he had your back and would always try to see things from your point of view. There wasn’t conflict for the sake of stirring things up; everything was chill and you were content.
Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)
Obviously, you’ll never have a sexy genius in your life that’s quite like your Scorpio ex. You could feel his passion for you from across the room, and when the two of you were together it was intense and intoxicating.
Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)
No one ever or will ever make you laugh the way your Sagittarius did.
You miss how optimistic he was and how he taught you to be open to new experiences and people, but mainly you’ll miss how you could be together and still be free.
Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)
It’s obvious to you that no one will ever have your back the way your Capricorn ex did. He was always looking out for you and taught you how important having a plan for the future was.
You loved the way he seemed like he’d be humorless and boring but how he was hilarious and hot, especially when it came to sex. He really was the whole package.
Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)
It might be a cliché but your Aquarius ex made you into the best possible version of yourself. Maybe it was because he was so accepting and actually seemed to enjoy getting to know the real you, or maybe it was because he was such an individual that he made you feel safe enough to shed your walls and barriers.
You want to be the best you can be — not just for yourself but for others as well. You’re just not sure if it’s possible without him.
Pisces (February 19 – March 20)
Your Pisces ex made you appreciate art, opened your eyes to the beauty of the world, and encouraged you to express yourself creativity — and they did this with so much tenderness and compassion.
You know you are changed for the better because of him and you’re grateful that he was in your life.
Originally published by Christine Schoenwald at YourTango.