Walking in on a cheating partner is not only the most heartbreaking way to end a relationship, it is also the most humiliating.
What is the standard protocol in such an uncomfortable situation? Do you politely avert your eyes and wait for everybody to get dressed so you can all sit down and discuss what the fuck is going on? Do you yell and cause a scene, throwing breakable vases at their heads? Or, do you simply turn around and leave, never to come back again?
While the answer varies depending on the relationship, one wronged boyfriend decided that his coping mechanism would be to take incriminating photos of the furtive couple and post them to social media.
Single dad Duston Holloway recently walked in on his girlfriend sleeping next to a random dude, apparently in the aftermath of hooking up. Instead of becoming physically aggressive or causing a ruckus, Duston decided to take some selfies with the sleeping couple and post them to Facebook.
“When you come to another man in your bed with the one you loved!” Duston captioned the photos. “Good men deserve good women.”
So, okay, let’s get one thing clear before we start labeling this guy as “#goals”: while Duston’s impulses to shame his now-ex-girlfriend on social media are understandable, this form of revenge definitely toes the line of what is and isn’t ethical. Like, should you really be sharing photos of unconscious people in a potentially mortifying situation without their knowledge? Do you really want to sink to that level of pettiness? Probably not.
Duston must have realized this, as he later deleted the photos from his timeline — however, as we all know, screenshots live forever!
The screenshots have since gone viral, and Duston seems to be basking in his newfound internet celebrity, as opposed to rethinking his decision to air his dirty laundry in public.
Duston spoke with humor site Dudecomedy about the incident, and described his reaction to finding another guy in bed with his girlfriend. When asked if he attempted to wake the sleeping couple, Duston replied that “I wanted to kick his ass, but I calmly just took selfies and walked like a boss.” He then said that he tried to wake his girlfriend up by tapping her on the shoulder, but that she was “drunk as (a) skunk.”
Duston later posted a Facebook status addressing all of the “support” he was receiving from random people on the internet:
I’ve had thousands of messages thousands upon thousands of people from all over the world congratulated me on being a better man and walking away I have pride and respect I’m amazed at the way this had turned into yesterday I thought my world fell apart I was heartbroken to ever witness anything like that , but with the amount of support from FB and family And friends I want to personally thank each and every one of you. The world ain’t as bad as we think. I don’t care to be known all over I could careless I know good people deserve the best I’m officially amazed with this . but there’s no need in bashing someone when they are down it was wrong it did suck but being the better person is always the best way. THE BEST FEELING IS WHEN SOMEONE APPRECIATES EVERYTHING ABOUT YOU THAT SOMEONE TOOK FOR GRANTED!
He then proceeded to commit one of the most unforgivable/annoying internet sins (aside from, you know, cheating on your significant other): he created his own promotional hashtag, which he dubbed #teamduston.
I’m glad you’re on your own team, dude, but at least let somebody else coin the damn hashtag.
So … while I absolutely sympathize with how infuriating and heartbreaking it must be to find your partner in bed with someone else, I also have to point out that Duston seems to really be milking this “internet celebrity” thing for all its worth. I’m glad he’s receiving the kind of support he needs in order to cope with this unexpected breakup, but this whole stunt feels kind of gross and sleazy. Frankly, I’m sorry for everyone involved.
The moral of this particularly awkward story? It’s very easy to take the low road when someone cheats on you —but sinking to their level and attempting to publicly shame them on social media certainly isn’t going to make you feel (or look) any better.
Stay classy, y’all.