Though it’s been several years since I’ve walked the halls of grade school, hearing about the dress codes in place these days is ludicrous. Sure, we had certain guidelines our attire was expected to meet, but things have gotten way out of hand.
In fact, one mother has had just about enough of these unrealistic standards on school wear. After her daughter was ridiculed for her “inappropriate” shorts and threatened with detention, she called out the principal—requesting that she be the one to take her daughter shopping.
This mom invited her daughter’s principal to go shopping after she was repeatedly reprimanded for dress code “violations.”
Catherine Perlman’s 13-year-old daughter, who is already 5’7, has been in trouble twice at school for wearing shorts that end just above her finger tips. If she shows up in the wrong attire again, Catherine’s daughter will receive detention.
In light of her frustrations with the school’s unfair clothing regulations, Catherine penned this open letter to her daughter’s principal in Today:
Dear Middle School Principal:
Thank you for sending a note home for the second day in a row to say my daughter was dressed inappropriately for school. I’d like to offer an additional thank you for forcing her to change into large mesh shorts that have been worn by only god knows who and potentially never washed.
To reward you for treating my daughter with such concern, I am cordially inviting you to take my daughter shopping.
She then, lists out the parameters in which the principal will have to work to satisfy her daughter’s needs and wishes her the best of luck.
Here are the specifications you have to work with. I wish you loads of luck.
She is 5’7” and 13 years old. Built more like her father, she has exceptionally long legs and arms.
She doesn’t like anything pink or purple or frilly.
She won’t wear pants because she gets overheated easily. Trust me I’ve seen this. It will cause a scene in the school yard.
She absolutely will not wear a dress either.
No item of clothing can have a logo visible because to her that’s not cool. She will however, wear any type of superhero, Green Day or USFL T-shirt if you can find them. You might be able to try for an occasional Beatles reference but that’s touch and go.
And reminds her to factor in the school’s overzealous dress code policy.
Now, don’t forget that you will have to find something in the stores that also meets with your dress code requirements. Here are the tricky areas that are most difficult to avoid. As per your policy she cannot wear tank tops. Shorts and skirts must not extend to the end of the fingertips (This is a toughie.)
So, if I were you (and I’m glad I’m not) I’d focus on the shorts first. She has very long fingers which seems to make finding shorts that won’t get her sent to the principal’s office impossible (On the bright side the piano teacher says those fingers are an asset.). I’d schedule a few afternoons and weekends for this endeavor. I can tell you from experience that just heading to the mall, Target and the outlets won’t cut it. Not much for her there. I’ve already checked.
One last point: please try to stay within a reasonable budget. We can’t spend a fortune on her wardrobe. She is still growing after all.
I thank you endlessly for taking on this chore. What a relief for me.
Sick Of The Dress Code Mom
But, the best part by far was Catherine’s closing remarks:
P.S. I forgot to thank you for making it clear to my daughter that her body is somehow a distraction, either to herself or to the boys. I thought she might have missed the message earlier in the year when the gym teacher told her she couldn’t wear yoga pants because the boys aren’t able to control themselves. I appreciate how hard you are working to drive the point home.
Several people who read her letter, took Catherine’s side and some even related.
Catherine also shared a photo of her daughter on Instagram wearing the shorts deemed “inappropriate” for school.
She captioned the photo: “My girl was dress coded two days in a row. It’s impossible to find shorts that are remotely fashionable and below her finger tips. She’s tall with long arms and fingers. One more code and she will have detention. And making the policy even more frustrating is that there isn’t a dress code for high school.”