When celebrities give interviews, there are plenty of things that can get lost in translation. Most of the time, you’re not really getting a fully-formed idea of that individual’s actual personality — you’re getting a much more two-dimensional version.
That’s why Blake Lively is looking to set the record straight when she gives interviews.
Blake Lively recently talked about her relationship with husband Ryan Reynolds during a Glamour interview. During the conversation, she explained some of their inside jokes, including Reynolds’ funny tweets about their “daughter.”
“When he says ‘my daughter,’ he’s never, ever talking about her. Everything is a completely made-up scenario,” Lively told Glamour. “He’ll run (the tweets) by me sometimes just to make me laugh. But oh, I’m so in love with him when he writes that stuff. I mean, I’m in love with him most of the time, but especially with that.”
Notice how she says “most of the time”? Yeah, that’s intentional.
“I said, ‘Most of the time,’ because if I say, ‘I’m so in love with him all the time,’ then you get that eye-rolling, ‘Oh, her life is so great, she’s so perfect,'” Lively adds. “So, it’s, like, my defense mechanism.”
Blake says she wants to convey a realistic image of herself to the world, as opposed to posturing like she has a perfect existence.
“It’s nonsense,” she told Glamour of this perception of perfection. “It simplifies people. Not all men, but a subsection of men, have a desire to understand and control women. To do that, you have to paint them into this thing you can wrap your head around. But women are complex. It also is (a reminder) that what you see in the media is not real life. The night before an interview, I have complete anxiety: ‘How is this person going to spin me?’ So when you read, ‘Oh, she’s got a perfect life,’ or ‘Her life is crumbling’ — they pick narratives for everyone. And the narratives stick.”
All in all, Lively says that her relationship with Reynolds is all about communication — which probably accounts for why she loves him “most of the time.”
“In other relationships, if something came up, I would call my girlfriends or my sister, and say, ‘Hey, this is what he did — what should I do?’ Where with (Reynolds), we were friends for two years before we were ever dating,” she told Glamour. “And I treat him like my girlfriend. I’m like, ‘Hey, this happened. It upset me. This is how I feel. What do I do?’ And he does the same for me. He treats me like his best buddy.”