We’re all guilty of spending far too much time staring at our phone screens instead of focusing on the world around us. This can not only cause problems in our professional life, but in our personal life and romantic relationships as well.
In fact, the habit of paying more attention to our phones than our significant others is becoming so common it’s earned its own unique moniker. “Phubbing” is the latest worrisome dating trend that’s creating some major rifts between partners and it doesn’t seem to be going away anytime soon.
‘Phubbing’ is the latest dating trend that most of us are guilty of.
Dictionary.com defines phubbing as the “act of ignoring a person or one’s surroundings when in a social situation by busying oneself with a phone or other mobile device.” So, pretty much everyone nowadays?
According to Thrillist, the phrase originally gained popularity in Australia and the UK.
Safe to say, this is something you and/or your partner are already in the habit of doing.
Unfortunately, yes. Getting distracted by our tiny screens and not listening to the person in front of us happens all to often.
In fact, the practice of ‘phubbing’ was the topic of a recent study conducted by Baylor University.
Professors James A. Roberts and Meredith David, who conducted the study, surveyed more than 450 U.S. adults to emphasize how often people are distracted by their phones while with their partners—a behavior they’ve labeled “Pphubbing,”or “partner phubbing.”
The university’s findings revealed what we really already knew to be true—that cellphone use can totally interfere with our relationships in negative way.
“Cellphones, originally designed as a communication tool, may actually, ironically, impede rather than cultivate satisfying communications and relationships among romantic partners,” Roberts and David said in a statement.
Professors involved in the study suggest significantly cutting back phone usage while in the presence of your partner to maintain a healthy relationship.
Though it might be difficult to let go of our technology, it could ultimately save our relationship or even help us realize that we might need to reassess our partner altogether.
“Although dialing back your total cellphone usage may be difficult, especially if you use it to work away from the office or on the go, a good place to start is with reducing your cellphone usage around your significant other,” Roberts and David said.