Good god, there’s now a dating trend called ‘zombie-ing’

Breadcrumbing, ghosting, phubbing — what is it with dating behaviors and their unfortunate colloquialisms?

I have no idea, but there’s apparently a new term for an all-too-common dating behavior which has become increasingly popular in the world of dating apps: “zombie-ing.”

“Zombie-ing” is what happens when a person you’re involved with suddenly ghosts you for an extended period of time, then eventually pops up out of nowhere (like a zombie, rising from the dead). Unlike breadcrumbing, there’s no communication from the “zombie” in between the ghosting and the reawakening phase.

Basically, that guy you had a few great dates with who goes months without talking to you, then all of a sudden texts “what’s up?” is straight-up exhibiting serious zombie behavior.

Bela Gandhi, founder of the Smart Dating Academy, spoke to TODAY about the rude dating phenomenon, and the psychological impulses behind it. Spoiler alert: it’s a pretty selfish move.

“The haunter lacks so much self-awareness,” said Gandhi. “Like, ‘I’m entitled to just come back in your life?'”

“I think a lot of times … it comes from low self-esteem,” she adds. “Maybe they started to date someone else, and that’s going off the rails, and they need that constant attention. It’s not nice of the haunter to do and it’s certainly not prudent for the hauntee to respond.”

In other words, a zombie doesn’t suddenly reanimate for no reason. Chances are, they haven’t suddenly come to their senses about how much they miss you. They just need positive affirmation, and are looking for it in all the available places.

So, don’t be fooled by a person’s “revived” interest in you, unless they make their intentions extremely clear. Because you definitely don’t have time to mess around with a corpse of a relationship.

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