Anyone who has spent enough time in the dating world knows that it’s not always smooth sailing. Life throws you curveballs when you least expect it and it’s how you handle it that produces that final outcome.
So when this group of Redditors were asked to share their favorite marriage tradition, one particular response by JT99-FirstBallot explained the backstory for his and his wife’s ritual that’ll leave you feeling all warm inside.
The beginning of JT99-FirstBallot‘s explanation went like so:
I knew I loved her from the day we first got together. About the third day in dating, 10 years ago, when we were 18 I didn’t want to seem like I was rushing the Love thing. So instead, because I have poor impulse control and just had to “tell” her, I squeezed her hand 3 times for I Love You. She didn’t catch on until about 2 months in, and when she did, she hadn’t realized how long I’d been doing it (three days into knowing her.)
We broke up two and a half years later. Her parents were controlling growing up and she wanted to experience more. I moved away.
Not the love story you were expecting, right? Keep reading!
8 years later I had some stuff of hers I always moved with me just in case I ran into her again. I dropped it off to her mom when I moved back. She called me crying, that I’d kept it all this time. I had been married, divorced, through college and everything in between but always kept that box of her stuff, unopened. Pictures of us, some important heirlooms to her., etc.
We found each other again, and realized for years we kept trying to replace each other with someone else. She got her experiences; I grew up some.
On the first date after we found each other again I instinctively held her hand and squeezed it three times. The look she gave me terrified me at first, because it had been so long. She started to tear up and squeezed mine back.
So that’s what we do now, all the time.
Now that my friends, is love.
Sometimes the relationships that weren’t easy to begin with, wind up being worth it after all. And although other factors like stress, family and timing are the uncontrollable curveballs, there’s no changing your mind about who you love.