It’s easy to get comfortable in a relationship real quick after a few months of dating. What’s the point of putting on makeup and doing your hair if they’ve already seen you at the crack of dawn, right? But getting comfortable means you start showing the little quirks you have and sometimes those are just habits that aren’t cute.
It’s time for you to realize if your habits are something that you can work on or your partner may not stick around for much longer.
1. Being lazy.
Just because your partner has seen you naked and sans makeup, doesn’t mean you need to stop showering or taking care of your appearance. Your partner fell in love with you for you but also because they were physically attracted to you. Show them that you can care for yourself before their eyes start to wander towards someone else. This includes keeping a clean home.
2. Eating like a dog.
Have you ever noticed that you’re a loud chewer? Because you’ve lived with yourself for forever, you’ve become immune to the sound of chewing. Your partner hasn’t known you as long and they can definitely hear you chomping down on those chips. Chewing loud is a habit that irritates some people so much that they can’t stand to even be in the same room.
3. Being attached at the hip.
As much as you want to spend time with your partner, back the f*#k off. Even though you have the best intentions of being affectionate and caring towards them, you’re just coming off as clingy. It’s best to figure out the level of PDA you both are comfortable with before your partner starts to avoid hanging out with you in public.
4. Always looking at your cell phone.
This is one of those habits you need to watch out for with both you and your partner. Are you both comfortably on your phones at the same time or is it just you? If you’re constantly looking at your phone, your partner will feel invisible and begin to second guess if they want to continue a relationship with someone who doesn’t pay attention. It’s not nice to feel invisible and you should know this for yourself.
5. Not listening.
A relationship is a two-way deal. As much as you want to express your feelings, you should be able to also listen to your partner’s feelings as well. It’s important to come to a mutual understanding in every conversation or your dominating personality will just push your partner straight out the door.
6. Spending hundreds at the department store.
Money is a very important part of a relationship. Your partner needs to see if they can trust you with money because someday you’ll both be sharing it. If you handle money terribly and irresponsibly, this can potentially start fights and keep your partner from wanting to pursue the relationship further down the lane.
7. Asking for too much from them.
Nit picking is super annoying for anyone. We like to think that what whatever it is that we’re doing is the perfect way of doing it. If someone disagrees then that just drives us nuts. Vice versa,our partners feel the same way. But are you letting them have their moment or complaining about it? Nit picking makes you come off as someone who’s not interested in your partner and they’ll feel like they can’t come and talk to you.
I know it’s hard to have someone call you out on your bad habits, but think of it as the advice didn’t know you needed to save your failing relationship you didn’t know was failing.