Just days ago, an Australian woman, Holly Butcher, passed away from terminal cancer and left behind a beautiful yet heartbreaking note, that is now going viral. The 27-year-old suffered from Ewing’s sarcoma and before passing, she penned a letter about the lessons she learned after receiving her devastating diagnosis. Holly requested her family to post the message on Facebook once she was gone, according to News.com.au.
Within the note, Holly opens up about confronting mortality within the last year. “It’s just one of those things you ignore. The days tick by and you just expect they will keep on coming; Until the unexpected happens.” She talked about how she always planned to have a large family and growing old with the love of her life. But said, ‘That’s the thing about life; It is fragile, precious and unpredictable and each day is a gift, not a given right.”
She reminds us that although death is a difficult topic, it’s necessary to talk about because that’s apart of life.
“I don’t want to go. I love my life. I am happy.. I owe that to my loved ones. But the control is out of my hands. I haven’t started this ‘note before I die’ so that death is feared – I like the fact that we are mostly ignorant to it’s inevitability.. Except when I want to talk about it and it is treated like a ‘taboo’ topic that will never happen to any of us.. That’s been a bit tough. I just want people to stop worrying so much about the small, meaningless stresses in life and try to remember that we all have the same fate after it all so do what you can to make your time feel worthy and great, minus the bullshit.”
Over the last months, Holly documented thoughts about life that she pondered over and shared perspectives we all could learn from. Here’s some of her points below:
“Those times you are whinging about ridiculous things (something I have noticed so much these past few months), just think about someone who is really facing a problem. Be grateful for your minor issue and get over it. It’s okay to acknowledge that something is annoying but try not to carry on about it and negatively effect other people’s days.”
“I hear people complaining about how terrible work is or about how hard it is to exercise – Be grateful you are physically able to. Work and exercise may seem like such trivial things … until your body doesn’t allow you to do either of them.”
“Appreciate your good health and functioning body- even if it isn’t your ideal size. Look after it and embrace how amazing it is. Move it and nourish it with fresh food. Don’t obsess over it.”
“Give, give, give. It is true that you gain more happiness doing things for others than doing them for yourself. I wish I did this more. Since I have been sick, I have met the most incredibly giving and kind people and been the receiver of the most thoughtful and loving words and support from my family, friends and strangers; More than I could I ever give in return.”
“Use your money on experiences… Or at least don’t miss out on experiences because you spent all your money on material shit.”
“If you can, do a good deed for humanity (and myself) and start regularly donating blood. It will make you feel good with the added bonus of saving lives. I feel like it is something that is so overlooked considering every donation can save 3 lives! ”
Then a short yet sweet list ensued.
“Listen to music.. really listen. Music is therapy. Old is best.”
“Cuddle your dog. Far out, I will miss that.”
“Talk to your friends. Put down your phone. Are they doing okay?”
“Travel if it’s your desire, don’t if it’s not.”
“Work to live, don’t live to work.”
“Seriously, do what makes your heart feel happy.”
“Eat the cake. Zero guilt.”
“Say no to things you really don’t want to do.”
“Don’t feel pressured to do what other people might think is a fulfilling life.. you might want a mediocre life and that is so okay.”
One of the most important reminders of them all was mentioned towards the end.
“Tell your loved ones you love them every time you get the chance and love them with everything you have.”