Spanking has always been a hot button issue, but it’s always been an issue that has confounded me, both as a child and as an adult.
I was only spanked once as a kid, and I was just as confused about what I was supposed to feel about it as my mom was.
But as an adult, I get why women like to be spanked for sexual pleasure. Because I’m one of those women.
I’m also a total control freak in most aspects of my life.
Other people get stressed out when they have too much to do, but I’m fine as long as I have total control of all of those things.
Invite me out to eat dinner with a group of people and I defy you to make me have a good time and not think about the fact that at the end of the meal we’re going to have to figure out the bill.
I’m not alone either.
For many women, being in control, working to maintain control, or struggling to gain it, these are all huge parts of what it means to be a woman.
When we are babied or punished in our daily lives it’s never because we want it. It’s because we have sexist bosses or colleagues who think it’s okay to undermine us just because we have vaginas.
The reason women want to be spanked is because when you lay down on someone else’s lap and trust them to give you the spanking of your life it’s 100% YOUR choice.
YOU are choosing to let your guard down.
YOU are choosing to relinquish control.
YOU are choosing the person who is helping you achieve that release.
Women like being spanked not because they have issues held over from their childhood, or because they have secret self-loathing and think they deserve to be treated badly or abused.
Women like being spanked because for just a few, precious seconds they are transported by a pain of their own choosing away from the strictures of control that we have to exercise to survive AND be female at the same time.
Does every woman on planet harbor a secret passion for being spanked?
It’s true of a certain segment of the population that has found that being spanked is exactly what they need to sustain them emotionally, sexually, and intellectually.
But it’s just as true that other people have other, equally valid, ways of eliminating stress and embracing their truest sense of self.
Originally published by Rebecca Jane Stokes at YourTango.
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