It’s always more difficult to make it through a breakup if there’s a significant possibility of seeing your ex again — which is why parents who go through divorce have such a difficult task when it comes to raising their kids in a hostility-free environment.
Jessica Singleton is a single mom from Chipley, Florida. She is raising her young son, Pierson, with the help of her ex, who endeavors to stay as involved in their son’s life as possible. Singleton recently wrote a Facebook post thanking her ex-partner for his truly admirable support, and for still being her partner in parenting.
Her post reads:
This is my ex. This right here is more valuable than gold. This is a man who doesn’t pay a dime through the state because when my son needs new clothes, I just call him. This is a man who buys a bundle of kids’ movies on Vudu so even I can enjoy them with my son in my own home. A man who drops off the $45 box of pull-ups at my front door so I don’t have to load him up and go to the store. One who takes his son in 10 min notice far often than he should because I have too much to get done or just need a nap. This is a man who listens to me cry because I’m stressed out. This is a man who tells his son not to forget mommy’s boyfriend when he lists his favorite people off the top of his head…A man who rushes over because we got locked out of the house or spends his evening fixing something for us. This is a man who labeled the presents he bought his son from “mommy” because mommy couldn’t get him as many. A man who still watches my sister’s kids so our son can be with his cousins. One who accompanies me to meet strangers from Craigslist to ensure we are safe. This is the diaper-bag-wearing, chocolate-milk-making, selfless, protective, generous, accomplished FATHER to my son.
The amount of obstacles we’ve had to overcome to get to this point are tremendous. This was not easy, this was a choice. Stop giving excuses and come together for your children. I’m the most stubborn person that I know and forgiveness came easy to us for the sake of our son. And because of that, I see my son every single day. We always welcome each other’s presence.
In case I haven’t told you lately, I’m grateful for you. Most importantly for the motivated individual you are and how you provide Pierson with a phenomenal role model despite the foundation you once had. I love the amount of love my son will always have from you.
Naturally, Singleton’s heartfelt confession has Facebook commenter’s choking up over this couple’s dedication to putting their son first, and keeping their own egos in check.
Obviously, some haters made comments asking why Singleton’s ex is still her ex, if she cares about him so much — but they’re sort of missing the point. If there’s a kid involved, it’s important to be a partner for your fellow parent, rather than the “opposing team” in the battle for your child’s attention. You can (and should) have respect for your former significant other, particularly when you’re both on the journey of parenthood together.
Too bad these nice moments between exes are somewhat far and few between.