Chances are, if you’ve hung around a kid for any extended period of time, you’ve probably accidentally spouted off some expletives in front of them and immediately had to correct yourself.
But one blogger mom really doesn’t think you should sweat it when it comes to cursing around her kids.
Constance Hall is a mommy blogger who has gone viral multiple times before for her candid views regarding motherhood and parenting — and her latest viral post is certainly no exception to her no-holds-barred mentality.
Constance created a recent Facebook post regarding children cursing, and her view on the matter is refreshingly pragmatic.
Constance explains that she typically never thought twice about cursing around her kids, particularly since she was never cursing at another person:
You’ll never catch me calling someone a name or screaming “fuck off”
It’s the “for fuck sakes” when you you’ve gotten everyone in the car and are pulling out of the drive way when you smell a baby decided now was the perfect time to drop a shit.
Or the “holy shits!” At the pain that an innocent babies soft little lips can shoot through your body when latching onto your nipple. (Please don’t tell It’s an incorrect latch, I’ve breast fed 4 babies, each time my nipples had to toughen up and each time it FUCKING hurt)
When her oldest son, Arlo, started dropping a few curse words, Constance admits that she was a tad surprised. However, she also acknowledges that cursing isn’t nearly as detrimental as other, more negative behaviors.
But recently, to my surprise Arlo has been dropping a few bombs..
And as it turns out, his new mates don’t mind throwing around these particular words and their all rocking out feeling cool as fuck coz they said fuck.
Does it bother me? Not much, meanness would bother me more. I certainly don’t encourage it, have pulled him up on it and he appears to have stopped.
But I realised something pretty important. Arlo is reaching an age where his friends have a greater influence on him then I do, he copies them, loves them dearly and gets empowered by them.
I read about that once, about how you will come to a time where your children get their power from their mates and there isn’t much you can do about it, you need to let them discover who they are in a group of peers. That’s socialising.
And it’s beautiful.
In her view, Constance believes that teaching kids general character is more important than monitoring their word choice, and ultimately encourages them to make those decisions for themselves.
But what we can do is teach them how to recognise qualities that we respect. Point out, “how kind was Charley lending you his drink bottle?” And “did you see how Sam helped out that younger kid?”
“I love the way Sophia is always making funny jokes”
So while it’s important to say “don’t swear it’s not cool” it’s equally important to teach your kids to strive to find friends with similar moral codes to your family.
That way when they do ignore you and run off with their mates, they are in good hands, maybe cheeky ones, maybe sweary ones, but good ones none the less.
Because our house hold might be a sweary one, but it’s a bloody kind one and it’s full to the brim with love.
While this viewpoint might seem divisive, many moms are actually laughing and agreeing with Constance on this one — because cursing isn’t always something that can be helped.
Teaching your kids to be kind and empathetic, however, can and should be a focus.
So, maybe don’t go out of your way to drop F-bombs around your kid — but a couple of accidental expletives here and there probably aren’t going to scar them for life.